How do you want to feel today?
A few years ago, it hit me, you can’t control other people.
No matter how much you want to change how they behave or even feel, you just can’t.
The only thing you have control over is you.
It’s up to me how I behave – well on the most part that’s true, maybe after a few drinks my level of self control is debatable, but that’s a different story all together.
But, knowing this still didn’t stop me from feeling sad because of others actions.
There must be more.
What if the emotions we experience are our own choice? What if I could choose my reaction to others. What if it was as simple as choosing happiness or sadness?
I sometimes feel like I have some sort of life bipolar, as I tick tack between feeling like I’m on top of the world, I’m on track for something amazing, everything is incredible and then for no reason whatsoever, things change. The black cloud comes over and everything is hopeless, I have no future, no prospects, nothing is going my way.
But, between those two states, nothing in my life had changed. Nothing particularly bad or particularly good had happened to cause such opposite emotions. And yet those feelings were real.
Maybe today is brighter or I had a great night’s sleep, whatever the reason, by simply viewing things differently, my whole world changed and I’m ready to take on anything.
Now it’s not realistic to ask myself in every new situation or every interaction, “how do you want to feel about this?” And I know that life is not this simple.
But, by getting clear on how we want to feel as a whole everyday, we’re able to keep the emotional tick tacking to a minimum.
So ask yourself this, how do you want to feel?